Standing Out Seems Uncomfortably Wrong but Totally Okay

Standing out yet isolated and lonesome. Really?

Standing out yet isolated and lonesome. Really?

“I shall be telling this with a sigh

Somewhere ages and ages hence:

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—

I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference.” 

–  Robert Frost’s famous poem, The Road Not Taken

I often ask myself why I feel like a fish out of water most of the time. There is disconnection from most people in my age group. I have wisdom and disposition way beyond my years and I feel iffy about it. The interests that I partake seem to be of no importance to others. Then, after I searching deep within me for answers, I came to realize something. There is nothing wrong with being different. There is no need to be like everyone else. It is one of the tools we need to spark change.

I need to remind myself that people are different from each other. Each has his own quirks and idiosyncrasies. People are gifted in certain ways. Some have things that you want but you don’t have. The same goes vice versa: you have something that other people do not have. I just need to figure out what I am good at and just stick to it. In the long run, this something will become my specialty and defining quality.

I still have to find a community that supports me. It may be true that the five people we spend our time with most are the ones who influence us. I have to be selective of my friends. It is quite harsh but effective. I need to veer away from people who drain my energy and positive attitude. I want good role models who achieve and give back. I need a group which prioritizes hard-work, passion and happiness. This is a move that can bring me into great heights of success and fulfillment.

Ultimately, I must never lose the sense of myself. It is easy to be caught up by the rushing waves and then let destiny decide. But doing so depletes my power over me. Only in being true to my decisions will I be free and certain of where I think I am heading. I will get hold of the wheel and steer it to the right direction. I am worthy of having been given a life and having a sense of individuality. Having the clarity of mind will make me think for myself and not just follow what society imposes.

At the end of the day, it is no use changing myself just to please people who do not care about me. I just have to let my personality shine through and I don’t have to worry anymore. Given the unconventionality I possess, I just need focus on the things that are important to me. The ones who will stay will be there to support me. Once I have a sturdy platform, I can truly make a stance, do what I want without self-doubt, and eventually affect a difference.


Roland Andre Malic is a creative writer and blogger who took writing and speech courses in TalkShop, under the mentorship of Sheila Viesca, TalkShop’s CEO and Director of Communication. Still finding out his niche in life, he is on the way to self-discovery by traversing creative ventures, a step at a time, which include writing and blogging. He also finds joy in watching mind-boggling films, reading about art and history, and exploring musicians and artists from eclectic genres.


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