“Have patience with everything that remains unsolved in your heart. Try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books written in a foreign language. Do not now look for the answers. They cannot now be given to you because you could not live them. It is a question of experiencing everything. At present you need to live the question. Perhaps you will gradually, without even noticing it, find yourself experiencing the answer, some distant day.” – Rainer Maria Rilke
Sometimes we feel as if everything seems to be not working despite all our best intentions and positive efforts. We often question whether what we are doing is worth it. At worst, we might end up quitting because there is no indication that what we are doing is right. There is no instructor to give us three stars for a job well done or an alarm that would warn when we are about to tread the wrong path. We are left to be blindfolded reaching out into uncertainty for something to hold on to. It is a painfully long wait. However, patience is the key to a worthwhile anticipation.
Patience lessens the stress. Impatience is brought about by expectations not met. In a way, being annoyed pulls us down instead of lifting me up. We must accept that events do not favor us all the time so we must take everything in as it should be. If we stay within the lines of strict ideals, we will not welcome sudden chances of opportunities. These may open new pathways for us or broaden our field of scope. They will present a lateral growth in perspective and possibilities.
Once the inevitability of uncertainty is accepted, maintaining patience can also mean maintaining a state of mind ready for positivity and productivity. Worry just creates a spiral of expectation and disappointment. I say we must set aside the one that upsets us and do something else just to take a breather. Find an activity that fosters a different kind of thinking process. Go for a hike, swim a mile, read a novel, eat a cookie. Travel to India, volunteer in a non-profit organization or play in a band. Rest your mind and reclaim energy from another source. Once we resume, we will have fresh pair of eyes and brain for revitalized and stress-free decision making.
After pampering ourselves, we must go back and focus. The purpose of distraction is to replenish our source of inspiration and not a permanent escape. Maybe the blockages we encounter are just interrupted adrenaline rushes. We must not forget what we are striving for. Even though we need a good break we are still responsible for our work.
It is understandable to be painfully waiting for the end of our suffering and sacrifice. It is important to sometimes lower our standards and welcome uncertainty. This way we do not become stringent and rigid on ourselves. When times get rough, we can distance ourselves for a while and look at it as a whole picture. Only then will we fully realize how far we have come and it is not worth giving it up. It will take time but it is going to be worthwhile and gratifying.
Roland Andre Malic is a creative writer and blogger who took writing and speech courses in TalkShop, under the mentoring of Sheila Viesca, CEO and Director of Communication. Still finding out his niche in life, he is on the way to self-discovery by traversing creative ventures, a step at a time, which include writing and blogging. He also finds joy in watching mind-boggling films, reading about art and history, and exploring musicians and artists from eclectic genres.