About Me: Me and My Blogging Plans

I want to be the happy version of me as this photo shows. (c) R. Malic, May 2013, Shibuya, Tokyo, Japan

I want to be the happy version of me as this photo shows.
(c) R. Malic, May 2013, Shibuya, Tokyo, Japan

Hi.

I am “Bones” Malic, now in my early 20’s, presently working in a financial services company, secretly dreaming to transfer into the creative industry. I take great interest in art, music, and a lot more… or should I say, a large spectrum of the human creative expression. I am also a contributor to TalkShop, the Best English School in the Philippines, and an aspiring artist.

The main reason I started to blog is to find out my creative niche. I am in a current search for who I am as a creative and it is a constant struggle for me to define and market myself without tapping into my “inner self.” Due to my introverted and introspective nature, that is a skill that I have to use to my advantage.

I have always felt a victim of circumstances and have always questioned my value as a soul that roams around the earth. I do not want to dwell too much into the details for I do not want those to interfere with my present endeavors. I have undergone a lot of re-awakenings to truly realize what I feel my soul is capable of contributing to the universe but it is not until someone who commented that I have a great potential for a writing career did I venture into writing. Hence, I am now blogging to express, to heal, and to improve myself personally.

I occasionally post some articles about Personality Development which are specifically contributed for another purpose. However, I do share some of my thoughts that both trouble and inspire me now and then, along with some of my drawings and artworks. Generally, I want to show the side of me that does not speak up that much.

I also want to be part of a creative community so I can interact and learn from fellow creative people so that I can acquire both practical information and ideal opinions, build my confidence, and have a support system resource that I can tap into. Also, who wouldn’t like to meet new people? I will not let my introversion get hold of my world views again. I want to speak my mind.

To sum it up, I started this blog to have a personal creative outlet, to know more about my abilities and what best ways to use them, and to find a creative community that is supportive and insightful. I hope that within the year I will build my still semi-erect spine of confidence find my creative writing niche and be able to find a good path from there.

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Communicating at Work

"Line of Communication"

“Through the Line of Communication”

A lot of us do not seem to invest our time in practicing professional communication. Yes, it is a non-universal rule and is not set in stone. Yet, there seems to be a culture developed that is founded on both courtesy and efficiency that corporate behavioral experts eventually compiled into books and applied into today’s corporate institutions. Be it oral or written form, it is more appealing if one masters good communication skills. It becomes a way of gauging one’s work ethic.

It helps if you become clear and concise with the message you need to come across. A single string of words can be interpreted into so many meanings. You must bear in mind to be selective and direct with the words you use. We have a tendency to think that using highfalutin words would make us more impressive and intelligent. However, such pompous words convey a sense of desperation for attention in delivering the message through lots of loops, turns, and hangs which are unnecessary. Also, it is helpful to equip yourself with a good roster of jargon in the field you are discussing to save you from being embarrassed since you will have better knowledge and understanding of the topics.

Another tip is to employ courtesy at all times. You do not want to appear rude to a colleague or boss. Lines of hierarchy and function must still be observed at all times because conflict must be handled smoothly and, as much as possible, non-aggressively. This is to maintain harmony and efficiency at work. However, assertion must not wane despite being polite. Too much respect can translate into being submissive, pointing all faults to yourself. Maintain your pride while admitting responsibility so your dignity remains intact.

Lastly, I suggest that in all interactions you do, be the best you can be. It is helpful to hint at your capabilities in order for people to remember you. For example, you may want to add some humor in your conversations so they can see your wit and cunning, or you may offer help when necessary to show that you are an accommodating person, or you can also write e-mails to indirectly advertise your good writing skills. A few hints of your personality, whether direct or indirect, are helpful to maintain your credibility.

Communication is the most obvious and accessible tool to get to know the kind of person you are and the value that you put into your profession. You must show behavior that exudes respect and clarity in your ideas create a smooth flow of activities in the workplace. Reading books on corporate culture and ethics will help. It is better to know a few references beforehand than to appear blind to these social cues. Nevertheless, experience is still the best teacher. So go ahead, learn to communicate competently and build your credibility as a professional.

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Roland Andre Malic is a creative writer and blogger who took writing and speech courses in TalkShop, under the guidance of Sheila Viesca, CEO and Director of Communication. Still finding out his niche in life, he is on the way to self-discovery by traversing creative ventures, a step at a time, which include writing and blogging. He also finds joy in watching mind-boggling films, reading about art and history, and exploring musicians and artists from eclectic genres.

What’s Blocking You?

photo by Heidi J., photo manipulation by R. Malic Apparently, I brood too much than I actually am aware of

photo by Heidi J., photo manipulation by R. Malic
Apparently, I brood too much than I actually am aware of.

Right now, an indefinable entity has blocked my thoughts; something inexplicable that no words can describe it. I try to grasp its existence; its heaviness fills me with wariness. It drives me insane. After a few moments, I came to realize that it doesn’t really obstruct my thoughts, per se, because I am still able to write and type from my head. This mental block hinders more than it inhibits me from producing something worthwhile to read. It makes it difficult to release my creativity as it tries to stop me from doing what I do best.

From this point on, I will do my best not to succumb to this fear. I do not want to show up next time without a well-made output or present a product made out of force. But that is the issue. How can I create routinely something when writing motivation and inspiration often come out spontaneously? I am doing it right now – I write without a rigid and specific cause or aim. Just write. No thoughts pulled back. No ideas to be disturbed. Every single word is flowing out as I write this draft. I picture a thread of words being spindled into refinery. These golden thoughts will shine in the sun with its radiance reflected and cast upon the reader’s eyes.

If I give in to perfection, there will be no room for creativity as everything becomes contrived, confined and inhibited. A breath of fresh air is all I need! Move, move, MOVE! Push that critic past the cliff and let him fall without regard into oblivion. Break his soul sucking incantation before he breaks me down. Ride those imaginary wheels and fly into the skies, wind brushing past my face and hair. I am enjoying this ride while regurgitating this mental asphyxiation.

But then… halt! I thought I finally got rid of it! I hushed it out, didn’t I? But here it comes again peeping and booing like a phantom in the night. Punch it in the face! Consciously empower myself to defeat it! These monsters in my head are there because I am facing a new level of discomfort. Why can’t these thoughts let me act the way I do? I certainly won’t lie in bed again and make it as an excuse. I cannot think anything, right? Why not attack it? Have I noticed that I made it to the fourth paragraph? What is this inner critic still babbling about?

I hope I learned my lesson. It is hard and unnerving when I try to grasp what is supposed to be the right words or the right style. Although it seems counterintuitive, it helps to write without limits. Great things happen without victimizing one’s self from an obviously temporary slump (in my case, I need little doses of neuroses). I must take that first step, and immediately follow it with one more, slowly but surely. Then, I can go places – without aim or direction, yet enamored by action, movement, and sudden development.

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Roland Andre Malic is a creative writer and blogger who took writing and speech courses in TalkShop, under the guidance of Sheila Viesca, CEO and Director of Communication. Still finding out his niche in life, he is on the way to self-discovery by traversing creative ventures, a step at a time, which include writing and blogging. He also finds joy in watching mind-boggling films, reading about art and history, and exploring musicians and artists from eclectic genres.

Representing Ourselves in a World of Mindless Chatter Boxes

The rabbit knows it... so should you.

The rabbit knows it… so should you.

It alarms me how today’s generation has perpetuated ignorance and close mindedness in social media and other online platforms despite the abundance of information in the internet. I observe that the power given to them for free expression is used recklessly instead of responsibly, often spawning really tasteless jokes and memes, wasteful comment wars, and display of brutal insensitivity. Is it true that this generation has become dumb when it comes to respect and judgment? It is time for us to be reminded that open-mindedness must be raised to a higher bar.

Over time, internet use has increased rapidly, and that means that most of today’s activities rely on that virtual universe. People can both acquire and share information about almost every topic in the planet through the internet. Maybe someone from years ago thought of building communities and conversations and of creating forums which have now evolved into social media websites.

The “comment” box has become a staple in almost every social media website. It does not say which kind of comment we have to put. It encourages us to speak – and it is truly effective. People now automatically say what is on their minds without filtering them. People throw negative comments, make derogatory and prejudiced accusations, and the use of swear words often censored on TV has become widespread. It is as if everyone has to talk and criticize all the time.

The anonymity of our internet persona adds to the kick that we get from being overtly opinionated. When we comment online and someone disagrees, there is a marginal possibility that someone might attack us face-to-face upon reading the comment. Although we can be a victim of social media bullying, we can simply get away with the issue by staying offline for weeks (however hard it is for others). With the easy spread of information through the internet, it does not take great effort to create a thread of comments that are both criticizing and self-righteous. Even swear words can alternatively be spelled and their essence is not censored immediately.

On the other hand, using the internet does not mean that we always have to put cotton candy and rainbow-like topics. We can still have fun and find entertainment without having to laugh at other people’s choices. Also, we can still be serious yet avoid hurtful and derogatory statements. It is up to us to read more information and find the right set of words to use before making comments. In other words, think before typing and pressing enter.

The internet is invented as an alternative means for communication and through the years, it has proven to be highly efficient in delivering messages in various formats – from text, to photo, to recorded video, and live streaming. IN a short time, the internet has become an alternate universe of various languages and conversations, often containing topics from the non-virtual universe we live in. The words we put online may make sense or contain truth to a certain extent, but words are empowering and thought-provoking. They send many signals and cause volatile emotions to uproar. Also, words can equally cause peace and harmony. Even though freedom is given to us, it does not give us license to spread hate. In the first place, the internet’s primary purpose is to connect with other people and it defeats this purpose if we bash each other. In other words, as a precaution, we should refrain from using the comment box without educating and informing ourselves first.

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Roland Andre Malic is a creative writer and blogger who took writing and speech courses in TalkShop, under the guidance of Sheila Viesca, CEO and Director of Communication. Still finding out his niche in life, he is on the way to self-discovery by traversing creative ventures, a step at a time, which include writing and blogging. He also finds joy in watching mind-boggling films, reading about art and history, and exploring musicians and artists from eclectic genres.

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Albercht
G-Tech 0.4 on paper

Albercht is a single rich old man always wearing insane fashion of fur. He carries a golden cane to support his limping right leg while sporting an emerald and gold ring that seems to have been passed on from generation to generation. Despite his highly maintained grooming, he likes to keep his hair unbrushed. He is a libertine in the most modern ways, holding private parties with utmost lavishness and extravagance. He never eats food with his hands and always demands the finest set of silverware. He has diamonds imported to serve as board game pawns.

Better toTake a Break than to Break Down

Whenever I get annoyed, I draw images like this. Quite productive, isn't it?

Whenever I get annoyed, I draw images like this. Quite productive, isn’t it?

I was on the edge of pulling my hair out of frustration to create an article. It had been a week since this assignment was given to me and I have not yet finished a thing. Since I had managed to make four articles a week on average, I challenged my self to make six to eight articles these two weeks. Little I did know that I had put on so much pressure on myself. This is so because I seem to be off beat from my usual creative flow.

Earlier the previous week, I set a private space and time for myself and my assignments. I had a good routine – I did my free writing activity first before entertaining interruptions and then I started to work. This week was different though, I gave in to these interruptions out of not wanting to be pressured. Then it came, the weekend with so much regret and irritation for not producing one thing. I decided to put it off until the muse of creativity granted me inspiration. I waited for everything to run smoothly and naturally.

To break the pressure, I let myself be distracted by doing something else. I continued and finished a drawing that I left uncared for for two weeks. The pencil drawing the week before is now outlined in ink. Since it was Halloween, I also watched a few horror flicks while munching on junk food. Out of curiosity, I tried to listen to an internet guided meditation on astral projection (almost to no avail). I even worked out to release some endorphins. Lastly, for the first time after so many weeks of being busy and exhausted, I had an in-depth and important chat with my family,

I am glad to put off the pressure. It feels good that a few of the distractions made me come back and believe that I can push through. Before I let it take over me, I halted it. Now, I am thankful to produce something, albeit unrelated to my assignment. But then, I produced something, didn’t I?

Importance of Not Knowing

Not knowing makes you yearn for possibilities. Some possibilities might make you anxious but others make you excited. It is up to us which uncertainties would drive our lives. It is up to us which ones to harness and which ones to drag us. We may never know but we are the only ones who could get our minds to project into it.

I think it is unfair to judge opportunities according to stability. I mean, isn’t it that life is unstable as it is? I was taught with skills that I would use for the future challenges and people tell me that it is not going to be stable. I want to be pushed to the limits and I want to be surrounded by people who has drive. I must take opportunities wisely for I have seen where I am going to be.

So Much Time Spent In My Head

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Isn’t it irritating if you are a natural thinker and you spend so much time in your head to the point that you have conversations entirely to yourself? Was I completely used to being a loner that I have tons of imaginary conversations that run entirely on loop or in perpetuity that sometimes when I sit on a very lengthy commute, tired commuters resting from a long stressful day would find me musing and silently laughing at myself, sometimes coupling it with words that are absolutely and ridiculously random without understanding the context? Is is worth it to be a talker than to be a thinker?

No offense made, okay, maybe slightly. I think that we must not judge people because we do not know what they have gone through for each of us do not share the same kind of circumstances. However, it is unfair that a lump sum of similar attitudes and behavior make up what is to be acceptable and normal and right. Being a thinker and not a talker had made me keener and more filtered and intelligent in making decisions and statements but without the conversationalist side of it, these thoughts would amount to nothing.

Which led me into the idea of having to carry a notebook around just to write my thoughts in. BUT, I often go into my mind wanderings on situations which wouldn’t make me comfortable to write. For example, in cramped public utility vehicles it is awkward for me to reach in my bag and create a space for my arms to move while writing because public vehicles are meant for maximum space usage which requires to pack people as much as possible, especially in overly populated city called Manila.

Another instance is when I get into my daydreaming states. An overly self-identified INFP (an MBTI personality category), I have the tendency to suffer long bouts of escapism through imagination. Long walks would make me fancy myself in a thriller movie with that Mission Impossible like theme song on the background coupled with measured confident strides wishing for a black trench coat that moves against the imaginary wind. I often would say lines and conversations in my head with other co-actors.

Also, when I lay in my bed and all these fucked up situations and over thinking plagues me, I get lazy to sit up and write. It seems as if there is an appropriate outlet for certain kinds of thoughts and emotions and I was not really taught to express myself freely growing up. It is exhausting and annoying.

Is it worth it to stay like this? Sometimes, yes, if I grew up in an environment friendly to the thinker types. People who do not ridicule the gentle and the tacit male. However, the gentle, sensitive males are often pushed outside the cool zone being called names even by the ones who must have given them support, say, people close to home. I know that there is an environment out there which can make people like me foster and grow. This is not it. Maybe then I will be more forgiving and accepting to myself. So, yeah, as of now, I say that I am uncomfortable being an thinker but there are a lot of opportunities out there, and it is a long worthwhile search.